Finn Boulding, stay-at-home dude
There’s an essay from a few days ago at Slate, by a guy named “Finn Boulding.” Finn calls himself a “stay-at-home dude” because he’s not a dad, but since he moved to new city because his wife got an allegedly great job offer after completing her Ph.D., he now stays home.
In much of the essay, Finn explains the benefits of a marriage where one spouse stays home and keeps house. The house is always clean, there’s good food to eat, the working spouse can relax when she gets home from work because she doesn’t have to do any housework, and they also get to spend more time together. It would be considered chauvinistic or something if a man explained the benefit of having housewife, but people view this information from a completely different perspective when a man describes the benefits to the marriage of being a “stay-at-home dude.”
But I should point out, once again, that the upper classes look down upon someone of either sex doing nothing. The upper middle class believes that people should do something for self-actualization purposes. Merely keeping a clean house isn’t very self-actualizing, that’s what poor immigrant housekeepers are for. In the more normal case where the man has a very large salary, the wife, even if she doesn’t need any income, should be outside the house from 9 to 5 doing something useful for society such as working at a non-profit or at an art gallery.
I can’t find anything about Finn on the internet. He seems to have pulled down all of his social media profiles. I think he’s an immigrant from Europe. He may have worked as an intern at U+B architecture & design in Minneapolis. This may be his wife, who looks pretty cute, but based on her Ph.D. in Communication and Science Studies, I have a hard time figuring out how she could be making so much money that it doesn’t pay for Finn to work.
UPDATE: A sleuthy reader found a woman more likely to be Finn Boulding’s wife, because she recently graduated from a PhD program in Minnesota and now is an Assistant Professor in San Antonio, Texas. Also, people wonder if he is related to the famous Elsie and Kenneth Boulding. I have no idea. But Boulding is a pretty rare name, and the obituary says they had 16 grandchildren.